Parenting can be a very difficult and challenging task, especially when your child has reached the teen years. The teen years of any child’s life are very crucial. During this period, the child not only grows physically, but morally, emotionally and intellectually. For many families, it is a time of confusion and upheaval and can cause conflict between the child and the parents. Therefore, psychologists deem it necessary for parents to understand the teen years and make it a point to improve their parenting skills so as to improve their relationship with the teenager and also the teenagers’ ability to cope with social and emotional conflicts and problems, with their parents or their peers.
There is no denying that parenting teenagers can be hard. Teenagers tend to start off by doing ‘cool’ things like dressing up differently, desperately trying to fit in and start recognizing how they differ from their peers which often lead to conflict in families. During this time, it becomes very important that parents start treating their children as adults. It is important that parents build a trusting relationship with their child as this is the stage where the communication gap is likely to widen the most. This can be done by planning activities together, fulfilling all the promises you make, spending time with them, forgiving their mistakes, talking to them and most importantly listening to them with an open mind, in a nonjudgmental way.
Help build up the child’s self esteem. By praising him and his strengths, help increase his self worth and self confidence so he or she does not need acceptance from his/her peers. Parenting programs are run for parents of young children and teenagers and are designed to enhance family life, parenting practices and behaviors and help make parents feel more confident about their parenting. Since parenting teenagers are one of the most demanding jobs, one has to develop and practice positive discipline techniques and developmental skills.
One such program is an interactive parenting software called Parenting wisely provided by many portals like Family works, Inc. Parenting Wisely offers well designed programs that facilitate the learning of important and necessary parenting skills for the healthy raising of a child. There are well tested programs that are guaranteed to deliver great results. They are available in interactive formats with a total of nine sessions or nine videos that display different teenage behaviors that a family struggles with and includes a question answer round, concluded with a quiz.
It is often said that the biggest asset of a human life are their children because they keep your teachings and learning alive through generations to come. Thus, it becomes the utmost responsibility of the parents to nurture the children in the best possible manner. Most of the times, we refer to our peer group or our parents and other relatives for suggestions regarding parenting our children and at times such suggestions also come in unsolicited. But whatever the source be, we tend to evaluate the advice and try to find a synergy with our case of parenting and follow it expecting the best outcome.
There are four basic types of parenting styles – uninvolved, permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative. The uninvolved parent is too engrossed with their lives and careers and does not bother to spend time with their children. this essentially mean that the children do not receive any emotional support from their children and thus these children do not bother to care or pay heed to their parents who anyways do not have time for their children. The permissive parents are the nice, friendly warm parents who usually share a fantastic relation with their children but these parents are reluctant to specify and codify rules for their children. The authoritarian parent is the strict and disciplinarian parent who wishes their children to follow their orders without question and generally believe in the concept of punishment in case their orders are not followed. The authoritative parents are the liberal parents who want their children to grow up as responsible individuals with a brain of their own and who accept things only after logical examinations and understanding. The authoritative parenting style gives the most effective results while the uninvolved parenting style provides the most disastrous results. Most often parents might adopt certain features of two or more parenting styles though one of the style would be predominant in their behavior.
But in the modern scenario of over busy schedules and hectic work leaves the parents with very low energy to actually work towards our children and thus creating a distance with our children and their needs. In such a scenario, the advices of parents and relatives and the peer group might not be effective always and might require professional advice. This is the time when the parents try to visit a professional practitioner in parenting techniques. The practitioner usually is someone who has gained both knowledge and experience in the subject of parenting so that the best solutions can be suggested to the overtly busy parents in nurturing their children and obtain the best possible outcome can be expected from the sessions. Such parenting programs can either be undertaken face to face or online. With the advent and the spread of technology, the online parenting programs are becoming popular day by day because of their convenience and ease of helping the parents.